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Why Gratitude Is Good for You

Do you need some motivation for practicing gratitude this Thanksgiving? It turns out that gratitude is good for our bodies, our minds, and our relationships. Advisors and business owners who feel honored to work with each other close deals at substantially higher rates and are happier with the outcomes, which leads...

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Is Dying at Your Desk Noble or Tragic?

Earlier this year, I facilitated a retreat for a group of business owners to talk about how to know when it’s time to sell their business and retire and how to navigate that transition without regrets.  One of them I’ll call “Brian” announced he had no plans to retire – “Not me,” he said.  “I’m planning to...

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Let Your Empathy Be Contagious

I spend my days keeping people and deals from falling apart. Right now, as I watch the coronavirus pandemic march across communities with all of its uncertainty, I’m struck by how similar this dynamic is to what I see playing out in deals every day.  It reminds me that one of the best tools to ease that panic is...

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Turning the Page

For those of you who have been around for a while, you know that December is when I press pause and allow the fast-paced holiday season to run its course.  It's also a time when I create space for reflection and to connect with the people who are important to me, as I encourage you to do, too. On a scale of 1 to...

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The Thread & The Throughline

There’s a thread you follow.  It goes among things that change. But it doesn’t change. People wonder about what you are pursuing. You have to explain about the thread. But it is hard for others to see. While you hold it you can’t get lost. Tragedies happen; people get hurt or die;  and you suffer and get...

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Will You Know When It’s Time?

“Now just feels like the right time,” said Steve Croft (age 73) on Sunday as he announced his retirement after 30 years at the CBS News show 60 Minutes.  He said he’d been considering when to retire at the end of each of the past four seasons and knew it was finally time. Hearing him say that he wanted to leave...

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Permission To Care

He told me, “Sometimes I just feel so lonely. Lost, in fact. Where did my friends go? I guess I just let work and family take up so much space that I’ve ended up feeling like a stranger in a strange land. I miss that I don’t have a universe of close men in my life. The worst part is feeling myself stuck in solitude...

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Building Your Courage Muscles

I was talking to my massage therapist the other night about a workshop called Courageous Choices that I led recently for a group of senior executives. I was preparing them to exit their companies and discover a legacy beyond just money.  Helping people make courageous choices is at the heart of what I do as a...

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Taking Back Your Life

  Have you ever been to a restaurant with a sushi train?  It’s a revolving conveyor belt that snakes through the restaurant loaded with little plates of sushi.  Diners choose directly from the sushi-go-round the nibbles that appeal to them.  Like at a dim sum restaurant, the plates are color-coded by price.  At...

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Integrity at Work

INTEGRITY AT WORK … Do Your People Care? No, REALLY, Care? For two days, I’ve been trying to catch a little stray dog in my neighborhood without success. I’ve enlisted neighbors and tried to engage passing motorists to help as this scraggly little brown dog would dart away from me toward the traffic on a busy main...

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The Legacy Dinner

The Legacy Dinner is a small curated dinner & discussion experience exploring the topic of What Constitutes a Lasting Legacy? It is an informal gathering, along the lines of a Jeffersonian-style dinner.  For each event, I’ve chosen a variety of people I know who I think are open to discussion and would each bring...

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Is Money Your Security Blanket?

In many of Charles M. Schulz' Peanuts  comic strips, Linus' security blanket is prominently featured.  Linus loves his blanket, carries it everywhere, often while sucking his thumb, and is not embarrassed by it.  He cannot survive without it and really suffers when it is being washed.  However, in...

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A Life in Focus

"To be honest, it's a blur," Jeff told me. We were trying to discern the vision he might have had for his life before it ran amok. I had asked him to tell me what he could remember as the highlights of his life from the past year off the top of his head (without looking at his calendar). It took the better part of an...

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X Marks the Spot

"I want to leave my mark on this world - something that really shows I was here!" Gary tells me. That's not uncommon. The desire to leave our mark, to show we were here - that we mattered - is nearly universal. So, I ask him, "What would be a meaningful marker to you?" For some people, it's having their name on a...

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Something Worth Standing For

This week, conversations with clients have often veered into their views on the controversy surrounding NFL players "taking a knee" while the national anthem is being played.  I'm less concerned whether they think the players should or shouldn't be doing it, or whether they think the President should or shouldn't be...

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